We all go about our daily lives not really paying attention to the activities of others around us. Life seems to move forward no matter how we try to speed it up or slow it down. Our attitude tends to put everything in perspective for us and we don’t think twice about what that attitude is.
We wake up in a good mood, bad mood, or just figure it is another day. We don’t reflect on the best way to start today, although, if we did, it would set a positive tone for the remainder of the day.
How do you see the world? Is it through your eyes or through someone else’s? So often we let others dictate how we feel, what we believe, or determine who we are. When we are children, this is natural as we don’t know any better, but, as we grow older, our world view should be our own. Remember the term “peer pressure.” This refers to our behavior and decisions determined by those around us. Most of the time, this begins in school and can last a lifetime.
The end of a dream can come from words or an attitude of someone else. The dream itself was formulated inside each one of us. We can hold on to that dream by knowing we all have the potential to realize it no matter what.
So often I run into people with no self-esteem and I wonder how this happened. Who said or did something previously to drive them down? If you watch people every day, you see those who can’t make eye contact, who think that their low position job is the best they will ever be, who feel like they have nothing to contribute. All this is a result of external pressures that we have internalized to be true. It is easy to tell people they have more value than they realize but it means nothing until they internalize that message.
How do you create your own special world?
First, what happened in the past is gone. Let it go.
Determine to find a positive in every aspect of your life.
Live in the here and now.
Be present and focus on every interaction throughout the day.
Reflect on every conversation. Look for the hidden gems.
Be excited for the future but don’t dwell on it. Plan simply.
Don’t try to do too much.
Creating your world is like producing a movie. You are the star. The script that you go by is one that you have written yourself. Like any good script, it takes time and effort. Also, the benefit of your personal script is that it can be adjusted as you go. You decide when you want to “ad lib” and make other changes. All movies have a supporting cast. Since you are the casting director, you determine who is going to support you and what role they will play.
The message is that you have control over what your life will be like. You may be affected by other people, but it is YOUR choice whether you accept it or not. Be the one in charge and determine what your life plan will be and then carry it out utilizing the tips above. Doing so will generate the happy and fulfilling life that you are seeking.
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