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Unveiling The Secrets – How To Be Successful In Life 

Regardless of how old or young you are, what you do for a living or where you belong, everyone shares something in common, i.e. they want to be successful in life. But every person’s definition of being successful is different. While some may call success having a faithful spouse or being a responsible parent, others equate it with fame, power, and wealth.  

Before heading forward, define success and what it means to you. You cannot be successful if you don’t know what it means to you. Make your goals clear and try to be as realistic as possible.  

Plan ahead and plan big  
The next step in the journey toward success is to decide what you want to achieve in life and plan big for yourself. Never underestimate your worth or skills and plan accordingly.  

Learn how to balance life
After careful and wise planning, balance your life –  professional, financial, personal – very logically and practically.  

Find the purpose or goal of your life 
Know what affects you, the things you simply love to do, and what provides you utter satisfaction. As you identify what you like, you can use it to find the main goal of your life. Knowing what you love will bring you motivation along the course of your journey toward attaining success.  

Stay away from distractions  
Distractions can be the spice or forbidden fruit in your life, depending upon how you handle them, so be clear and focused on your goals. Distractions will surely be there but don’t allow them to affect you. When you see that your goals take a backseat because of such distractions, banish them once and for all. ` 

Accept things as they come 
You need to accept the fact that life can be very unfair. You can complain about it and wish it to be different or you can take a step forward to go out there and do something about it. Stop wasting your time and use situations for your own benefit. If Newton had complained about an apple falling and hitting him on his head, rather than putting a different spin on the situation, he would have never discovered the law of gravity.  

Say goodbye to all your fears  
Remove fear from your thinking and stay focused on positive things in life. When you fail, don’t be fearful, be positive and start again.  

Developing Habits to Achieve a Goal

Have you ever had a New Year’s resolution to lose weight? Of course, you have; we all have. Whether it be a large amount of weight or just a few pounds, missing components in our plans are generally what derail our resolution.
Missing components are:
No plan
No “want to”
No trigger
No habits created

The Plan is the research that goes into how the weight will be lost. What will be the diet? What will each day’s activity look like? What exercises will be involved? What times will each of these occur?


A person who has no “want to” is someone who says to themselves, “I should lose weight” or “I want to lose ‘x’ number of pounds.”  A person who has the “want to” has a definitive mindset of “I am going to lose ‘x’ number of pounds” or “I am going to be down to ‘x’ by a certain date.” The “want to” is the establishment of a critical mental attitude that sets the mind on course.


A “trigger” is the key that unlocks the cause of why you are doing this. The trigger may be something like your doctor emphatically telling you to lose weight because of a serious health issue. Or it may be a decision you make regarding smoking that you need to quit because you don’t want to smoke around your children. Maybe they even said something about that habit. 
The trigger is very important as it is something that sits on your shoulder to remind you.


Lastly, habits are the routines that will help you stay on course. If you haven’t taken the time to think about and develop these habits, a routine will fall apart. This includes eliminating bad habits.  Habits are the automatic part of goal achievement and the part of the process that allows you to reach your goal. 

We all have many habits already, such as getting up in the morning, tying
our shoes, bathroom activities, eating meals and many others. We also may have many bad habits. The secret is to recognize the positive habits and the negative habits, then “tweak” them to make our goal(s) achievable. If we need to create a new habit, we can “attach” it to an already established good habit. For example, after I brush my teeth in the morning, I will do five push-ups. (Remember, you have to “want to” do the push-ups.) You can see that we “attached” the push-ups to the act of brushing our teeth.

A habit can be created for anything as long as it comprises a trigger, a “want to” and a reward.

Another key consideration in habit formation is the size of the habit. Sometimes trying to create a very large habit is very frustrating and if you lose the “want to,” you’ve lost the habit. Start small, very small. Maybe instead of doing five push ups after brushing your teeth, do two. The important thing to remember is to get the habit started and into your routine. I guarantee that as time goes by, the number of push ups will increase.

Take time to dwell on what you want and how you want to approach it. The chart will help you put your thoughts in order. Your “want to” will keep you on track and your reward(s) will help you look forward to the next event.

If you want to achieve goals on a more consistent basis, make habit creation (or deletion) a process that guides your journey.


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